Heal, Love, Thrive Blueprint

“You are not broken; you are carrying unhealed wounds that need attention. The time to heal is now.”

I remember years ago when I started becoming self aware. I had stumbled on a facebook post that said “If you are always trying to make everyone love you, you are a people pleaser and you are sick. You should find healing” 

For some reason that sounded like me. I would do anything to make people notice me and hang around me, but unfortunately many of them came when they realized they could get things from me.  It dawned on me that I took this attitude into my dating experiences too. I will do everything to get a man’s attention.

 The funny thing is that it was not so noticeable by everyone, but people who looked close, including the man, could see through me. I would try to be other people, hence I was seen as nothing but a copycat who wanted to shine by imitation. I reeked of desperation. Hence I attracted the wrongest men who would treat me like crap!

 I knew something was wrong with me, but I could not place it. I just thought it was as simple as “I am not lucky with men”, little did I know that I was moving around with a filled baggage of hurts and pains. This did not just affect my relationships, it affected my friendships and also my career. I was not doing well in life because I was quick to settle for less!

So you could imagine how relieved I felt after seeing that post! I finally found a name for my predicament: People Pleasing! “What a fancy name” I thought to myself. I wanted to know more immediately, so I clicked on the page of the person who made that post, and all I saw was a couple of posts that talked about emotional problems and that people should HEAL. But, I was not satisfied, I was ready to HEAL, but, “how do I heal” was my question. 

I searched everywhere for “how to heal”. There were not many youtube videos on mental health then, but even the few I found were more confusing! Their solutions were generic, and didn’t help. I kept searching for answers on how I could heal until I found a counselor who helped. I began my healing journey, and a lot of things were unpacked about me. The long story short was that my insecurities were a result of my childhood traumas. My sexual molestations, the marriages I saw around me where men cheated, the body-shaming I faced as a plus-sized kid, the unhealthy comparisons between myself and my peers, and many more! They were all the reasons I became a people pleaser. All I wanted was to love someone purely and be loved right back, (which wasn’t too much to ask for), but I sought for love in the wrong state and in the wrong way. 

When I overcame my childhood trauma, I knew people were going through similar ordeals, so I decided to do extensive research and knowledge-gathering from experts in order to know more. I did this for a number of years, and then I helped other people around me heal AT NO COST.

I started getting referrals from friends and families but I was fast becoming overwhelmed, so I decided to seek God’s face. God made me realize that this is a calling for me, hence there is more to come! I decided to get trained professionally and certified in order to deliver at my best, and I did! 

Ever since, I have been showing people the exact way they could heal, love and thrive. This is why I created the HLT Blueprint. I want to show you the exact blueprint tailored for you on how you can Heal from your childhood trauma, enjoy romantic love in the sweetest way possible and also thrive in your own God-given purpose too while you get a supportive community!